What’s your Dream Life? 7 STEPS TO DESIGN YOUR DESTINY

What’s your Dream Life? Everyone has dreams, sometimes they are short-term visions, some visions are about the ideal life. So What’s your dream life??

Do you live in regret that this is not the life you wanted? You had a completely different vision for yourself, your life, and what you wanted to do. Kind of relationship you wanted to enjoy, the lifestyle you had envisioned for yourself.

Your mind is like this water, my friend. When it is agitated, it becomes difficult to see. But if you allow it to settle, the answer becomes clear.

Grand Master Oogway

Life is not about one thing, it is the sum total of 

• what we do, 
• how healthy we are, 
• our relations, 
• the society we live in, 
• the lifestyle we have, 
• our self-worth and 
• The most important how we feel every day. 

I might have missed some factors or you may have some additional important factors. But more or less these are factors that determine the quality of your life.

The important thing to note is that there is no one factor that is more important than another. They all are equally important. But different people value them differently.

So, There can be a person for whom lifestyle is more important than relations, and for another person, self-worth might be supreme of all. The degree varies with every other individual and honestly, there are no right answers. 

It is about One’s Life, One’s Dream Life. How can there be a standard manual of operations? We are not machines or in other words, we are the most complex machines and the miracle of nature. Everyone is different, even the identical twins who share their genetic model to the highest degree don’t have the same wants and dreams.

Let me come to the next part of the title Design your Destiny

You just need to believe. You must believe.

Grand Master Oogway

Destiny in other words Fortune, Fate, also Future, or Luck.

So how can you design your own destiny? 

After reading many books, listening to a number of interviews, and answering people how to be successful I outlined a basic structure which gives you maximum chance because, to be honest, there is no guarantee ( I told you we are the most complex machines ). But there is a 99% chance that if you follow this Step by Step you are going to live your dream life.

** It’s all in the mindset. **

ALL YOU NEED IS TO DEFINE SUCCESS (i.e your ideal life) FOR YOU

Even for a billionaire his/, her life will be a failure if he thought of a certain life but cannot achieve it.

An Olympic winner will regret if all he wanted was to be a Chef.

So coming to answer what will make you live 100% successfully.

If you only do what you can do,

you will never be more than you are now.

Master Shifu

Define Success 

I can’t give you the definition of success this definition is your definition, your vision. All you need is to define and write what you want. You have already won Step-1.

Success to me is to find a purpose and leading my life and actions towards fulfilling those purposes.

There can be multiple purposes. And it is not about achieving a goal but rather waking up each day and working on the journey towards that purpose.

Let me give my personal example, my components of success

• I have a 2-year-old daughter, she is my priority over everything. To give her a suitable environment where she can find her way of living and enjoyment is my purpose.
• I love to spend quality time with my partner.
• I do counselling of women, money is a part but my purpose is they lead a better life with happiness and fulfilment.
• I love good food, cooking, and traveling I sneak out every chance I get.
• I like to keep myself busy but at the same time like relaxing life so I practice meditation.

When my life has all the elements in place and in the right proportion then only I can call it a perfect life.

“Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.”

– Earl Nightingale

Now I am going to give you a Step-by-Step framework following which you can also enjoy your perfect life as per your desires and dreams.

All you need is to believe.

Step-1 Get yourself a beautiful Diary. Yes, I am serious. Buy a Diary that is handy, beautiful and you would love to keep with you for the rest of your life as a life partner. This has to be different than your journal, gratitude diary, or planner.

Step-2 Firstly in a rough paper draft 3-5 stories about your life. Incorporate all the tiny details. Details like how healthy are you, how are your relations, how you spend time, what you do daily, where you live, what you love most about your life. 

Why 3-5 stories because every next time we discover something we missed that is vitally important for our life.

Step-3 Select the final version which is most elaborate and has all the minute details of your life. Your perfect life story. Write it down in your beautiful Life Dairy.

Step-4 Now you need to divide this story into action plans.

If not structured into actions this will remain a story in your dairy only. Divide your dreams into 5 yearly action plans, yearly achievable goals, a monthly review system, weekly tasks and daily actions to be taken.   

For Monthly, weekly and daily actions get yourself a daily planner.

Step-5 Write the person you have to become to live that life, the changes you need to do. Skills you need to learn. Who are you plays the most important role in achieving your results! 

Step-6 Write down your values and ethics which you will be standing for throughout your life. They define your personality and actions. This is another very important assessment. You want to work from home but you don’t like staying at home, now this is controversial.

Step-7 TAKE ACTION

“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.”

– Paulo Coelho

Now, what if your vision, your dreams, your aspiration shifts which is a good 95% chance that it will then you have to repeat all the tasks from Step-2 and rewrite your dream life and action plan.

What is the guarantee that I will achieve my dream life with this?

As I said earlier there is a 99% guarantee (1% for earth collapse). 

There are some prerequisites though

Dream Life story has to be real and not a fantasy story. Like after 5 years I am living on Mars. It can be ambitious like I own a house in NY but backed by your ability, capability, and willingness to do the hard work.

You should believe in that story. There is no need to show it to anyone else. It is you who has to believe to the core that all that you have written is possible and there is no doubt in that.

The minute you doubt the chances of achieving the same decreases. Doubts are traitors and often make us lose what we would have easily won by believing. Review your written goals often and keep yourself driven and motivated. You must REVISIT and REREAD this piece of paper as time goes on to keep your subconscious mind FOCUSED.

You have to take action, daily action. Story not backed by action will remain a story and there is nothing more hurtful than living someone’s else life. So, TAKE ACTION.

Be the ideal person every day and for your life, you wrote down in Step-5. Learn skills, read and study to become more of what you want to be. 

Now let me give some of my insights about the activities we all must do to become more than we are.

What is the attitude of a successful person?

1. Find your FLOW, if you found out at this stage your life is blissful.
2. They read books
3. They have diversified incomes.
4. They save and invest.
5. Build few but deep relations, I mean friends and family.
6. Most of them get up early
7. They take care of themselves first
8. They have Vision
9. They have an attitude of gratitude

“The only thing that will stop you from fulfilling your dreams is you.”

– Tom Bradley

When it comes to Investment and money there is no bigger factor than compounding that if you understand will change your life immediately. Money is important, there is no doubt in that statement.

Invest.

• Invest in your knowledge.
• Invest for personal growth.
• Invest in financial growth.
• Invest in future security.

Has to be in this order only.

“The only thing worse than starting something and failing … is not starting something.”

– Seth Godin

Summary

Write your Dream Life Like LIFE BOOK.

Work in the reverse direction.

• Make 5-year plans,
• Yearly goals,
• Monthly to-do list,
• Weekly task
• and
• Daily schedule.

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Have a VISION! It’s your dream life.